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“The Relaxed Soul is respectful”

When we come home feeling beat and also see our spouse feels beat and ask what’s for dinner are we being respectful?

Asking our spouse how their day went and then asking what we should do for dinner gives them choice?

Otherwise we are taking away their power and they become a slave to our expectation.

A respectful relationship is not demanding.

A respectful relationship expects nothing.

A respectful relationship is not about getting our way.

A respectful relationship allows everyone to grow.

Thus love, peace and contentment grow at home and we feel relaxed.

It is said in ancient texts: Be with those who help your being, don’t sit with indifferent people, whose breath comes cold out of their mouths. - Rumi

Health Tip

Dr. Hayes distinguished past president for the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies has written over 27 books on therapy including “Get out of your mind and into your life”. This new approach to creating happiness is very different, it takes on the Buddhist principles of insight meditation. Watching our thoughts and accepting our life and working according to our values. For instance if we have a thought that we are depressed, we look at the thought and say OK, I feel depressed. Then we go about working according to our values of doing the best we can right now. Allowing the thought to be just that, A THOUGHT and nothing more! In clinical studies this new approach lowered depression and other disorders surprisingly well.

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“The Relaxed Soul is aware of his bodily feelings.”

Are you comfortable with your body? Are you listening to your inner voice and body ques?

Being aware is the first step, and can be the most important step in combating stress. We have a certain amount of emotional energy to expend each day and when we are stressed out our energy is being used up at a much faster rate.

People who are relaxed check in with themselves all the time, they notice when their shoulders muscles are starting to tense up, or if they are holding their breath and take a break. They key in on their feelings and throughout the day use positive self talk to change their feelings of frustration and helplessness into feeling of power and choice.

When exercising relaxed people move through their routine knowing that everything will be all right, instead of pushing themselves harder and harder. Being relaxed is a state of mind, and a state of body which arises out of this state of mind.

Life is not about pushing, (that doesn’t mean not having goals) but it does mean having self-acceptance and self-awareness of everything we feel and do everyday.

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Health Tip

The survey, conducted by Opinion Research Corp. International in Princeton, N.J., surveyed a national sample of 1,014 U.S. adults.

90% of Americans feel massage is good for a person's health.
93% agree with the statement that massage can be effective for pain relief.
Use of massage in people age 65 and older has tripled from 4% in 1997 to 15% in 2005.
22% of Americans had a massage in the past year; 34% had a massage in the last five years.
73% of those who had a massage would recommend it to a person they know.
46% of respondents at some time had a massage to relieve pain.
Among respondents who discussed massage with their health care provider, 57% said this health professional strongly recommended massage or encouraged them to get a massage.

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“The Relaxed Soul schedules time each morning to express his devotion.”

There are many paths to spiritual relaxation. One of them is worship. To take the time to express our devotion, our love for our Creator (no matter what our religion), has a very healing effect upon the mind, body and spirit. This might mean going to your place of worship, or a place in your home. A special place and time for being grateful for what you have.

Your worship might take place at a specific time or it might be free flowing. Creating rituals is very important for a daily or weekly practice which allows you to have time to honor the divine. This might be in the form of prayer, reading sacred texts, singing songs of devotion, meditation, whatever you deem important for your spiritual process.

Health Tip

Fitness is linked with a reduced rate of memory decline in middle age, in new British research reported in Peak Performance. In this retrospective study of just under 2,000 middle-aged people born in the same week in March 1946, physical activity at age 36 was significantly associated with better memory performance at age 43 and with a slower rate of memory decline from 43 to 53 years. The suggestion is that it is never too late to benefit from exercise.

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“The Relaxed Soul allows others to help.”

Some of us still try to do everything by ourselves. This includes work, having fun, even being sick, and none of it works.

I have learned I have limitations.

I need people to help me in many ways. The big hurtle is being willing to ask for help! Asking for help is one of the hardest things we can do. We feel inadequate if we ask for help and we feel small asking for help. But in reality it takes a tremendously powerful person to know when he needs help and ask for it.

Be powerful, ask for help!

Health Tip

Snorting carbon dioxide may help to relieve the throbbing pain of migraine headaches. In a new study of 77 migraine sufferers, 30% who sniffed carbon dioxide were pain-free two hours later, compared with only 9% of the 75 people given a placebo. The amount of relief provided by the carbon dioxide is very similar to what you get with the potent oral migraine drugs usually prescribed to migraine patients, says researcher Egilius Spierings, MD, PhD, an associate clinical professor of neurology at Harvard Medical School in Boston.

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“The Relaxed Soul knows his power”

A young man from South America with prosthetic legs wins Olympic Races.

We have both our legs, and have just as much potential and power as this young man.

We have the power to do anything we want.

We must use our power!

Health Tip

Obese people have fewer symptoms of irritable bowel syndrome and less gut pain if they exercise, researchers report. It shows that a healthy lifestyle is an important part of overcoming abdominal pain, diarrhea, and other intestinal woes, says Rona L. Levy, PhD, of the University of Washington in Seattle. A lot of times people's irritable bowel syndrome [IBS] has taken over their lives, One of the things one wants to do is have people live more fulfilling lives rather than have illness be the focus. Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) is a group of symptoms consisting most commonly of abdominal pain, bloating, constipation, and diarrhea. It occurs in about one in five Americans -- more commonly in women -- and tends to flare with emotional stress. Though the intestines are not functioning normally in IBS there is no anatomical problem that can be seen or measured as a sign of the disease.

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“The Relaxed Soul forms good habits.”

Think of a long distance runner, keeping track of his distance, water intake, speed and more. He wants to run in the Summer Olympics so he works hard and long to attain his goal.

But many of us who came from dysfunctional families need immediate emotional gratification and this keeps us from ever attaining what we want.

We keep trying to please the unpleaseable!

And because of this, we have to force ourselves to push past our need and create goals and attain them. Creating good habits where dysfunction once dwelled.

Then we feel relaxed and at peace.

Health Tip

In the United Kingdom a new health bill has passed. Each person will receive 5 health checks during their lifetime. One at age 10, 25, 45 and age 65, and if they are not healthy they will receive free visits by a fitness/nutritionist instructor. This new health bill is expected to save the UK millions of dollars in health care. When will the US get its act together?

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“The Relaxed Soul reaches out.”

We keep dieting, taking pills to gain muscle and doing anything we can do to look good. Don’t get me wrong it’s great to stay in shape.

But most of us have a hard time loving our imperfection, and how can we see our perfection through eyes of imperfection?

When we can see the light in our eyes as something wonderful and reach out to the one in the mirror adoring every aspect of our being.

Then and only then do we graduate and receive our diploma in unconditional love.

For unconditional love starts from within and then we can feel relaxed and at peace.

Health Tip

A new poll by Italian psychologist of 523 couples has found that those who watch TV in their bedroom had sex half as often as those who did not watch TV in bed. It also showed that violent shows seemed to lower their passion.

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“The Relaxed Soul knows how to take care of himself.”

If you have high blood pressure take care of yourself by:

1. By talking to friends and finding new friends. Every one of us needs people we can call and talk to. How many friends do you have that you can tell your inner most secrets to? If you don’t have at least four close friends then you need to find some more.

2. Stop worrying, nothing ever changed by someone worrying about it. There are three things you can do, ONE - remove yourself from the situation, TWO - change the situation, and THREE - accept reality if there’s nothing you can do. And deal with anything causing you stress.

3. Take your medication everyday. Your prescription won’t do you any good sitting on the shelf.

4. Learning a new relaxation technique just might save your life. Most of us have been living our life the same old way. Stop and smell the roses! Start a Yoga class, QiGong, Tai Chi, or any other type of stress management class or go see a specialist in stress management.

Health Tip

A new study in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology shows that taking 1 g of ginger can cut your risk of postoperative nausea by 31%.

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“The Relaxed Soul is in control of his state of mind.”

We can be on the phone with Microsoft for three hours trying to fix our computer, or sitting at an automotive dealer waiting for a repair.

This is where being at peace and patient comes in handy.

The alternative is to get angry, but that only makes back pain flare up, our stomach upset and creates headaches.

Either we are in control of our life or the person at the other end of the phone is.

It’s a choice!

Health Tip

In a recent study, people who felt they typically received fair treatment at work were much less likely to suffer from coronary heart disease in later years compared to people who felt they never got a fair shake. Speak up and present fair solutions whenever you feel an injustice has occurred.

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“The Relaxed Soul anchors his mind in peace.”

Runners build endurance by running faster and farther.

In order to endure unpleasant situations we must learn mental endurance.

When something happens we must concentrate on positive thoughts.

We must think good thoughts never allowing the negative to overcome our mind.

This builds mental endurance keeping us from suffering in the worst of situations.

It is said in ancient texts: No sensation or mental torture can affect you if the mind is dissociated from it and anchored in the peace and joy of God. - Paramahansa Yogananda

Health Tip

Dr. Wilson stress researcher says, as stress mounts, the risk for depression rises. "Depression has many forms, You might get up in the morning and just as soon not face the day. You feel overwhelmed with it all and are continually feeling low." Recognizing that stress is getting out of hand is the first step to change. But even more important is identifying the sources of anxiety, and taking action.

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